When we think of abusive relationships, we often picture black eyes and broken bones. But while abuse often escalates to physical violence, it does not start out that way. In fact, abusers are often charming, attentive, and sweet at the beginning of a relationship. An abuser will work to make you feel so appreciated and loved, you won't even notice they are controlling until it's too late. But, there are warning signs we can look out for, to help us spot an abusive relationship, before it goes too far.
If these warning signs are happening in your relationship, even if your partner has not hit you (yet), this is abuse. Control, jealousy, and isolation are not love. Abusive behavior will not change -- no matter how hard you try or how much you love them. This individual may seem like your dream come true, but soon, they will become your worst nightmare.
You deserve better. You deserve to be safe and respected. And you deserve real love, not control. If you or someone you know is being abused, you do not have to face it alone. Advocates are available to help, anytime, at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Please make the call, and take the first step toward freedom and safety today. You're worth it.
Domestic Violence Awareness Month is recognized in October in the United States.
Despite the drop in ranking, South Carolina continues to place in the top 10 states in the nation and has done so since these reports were first issued. "South Carolina Ranks #5 in the Nation for Women Killed by Men" as sited by
This report is based on information obtained from the most recent Supplementary Homicide Report (SHI) data submitted to the Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI). The numbers for 2014 are the most recent statistics available, and the ranking is calculated according to the homicide rate per 100,000 people in the state.
43 females were murdered by males in South Carolina in 2014, a total of 1.73 per 100,000. Two of the victims were less than 18 years old. Six of the female homicide victims were 65 years of age or older, and the average homicide victim age was 44 years old. Of these victims, 18 were black and 25 were white.
For those homicides in which the victim to offender relationship could be identified, 93% of reported homicides (37 out of 40) were murdered by someone they knew. Of the homicide victims who knew their offenders, 62% (23 victims) were wives, common-law wives, ex-wives, or girlfriends of the offenders.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE & SEXUAL ASSAULT SUPPORT GROUPS
Safe Passage, Inc. hosts a weekly educational support group for Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault survivors. These groups are free of cost, and you do not have to be a client of Safe Passage, Inc. to participate in either group. Childcare may also be provided, as long as it is specified beforehand.